пренебречь, вальсируем
Гендер, отношения, семья
В поисках новой мужественности: американский вариант "Что означает «быть мужчиной»? Можно назвать много определяющих признаков от банальных до спорных. "
Новая парадигма отцовства "Мало кто сомневается в исключительной важности и незаменимости матери в жизни ребенка. Гораздо меньше известно о том, что с самых первых дней жизни ребенок остро нуждается в тесной психологической связи с отцом."
Sexting, and What it Means to be a Girl Two girls aged 12 were photographed by another friend on her digital camera. The two girls were depicted from the waist up, wearing bras. Skumanick told a group of students and parents that he had the authority to prosecute a girl for being photographed in a bikini on a beach, because the photo was "provocative." The boys who traded the photos bear no responsibility and require no re-education. Instead the girls are threatened with felony charges and life-long registration as sex offenders.
Vintage - Dating Techniques from the 1930's "From the Facebook album: "Vintage - Dating Techniques from the 1930's" by Jenny Bowen"
Designing a Better Drop-Down Menu for Gender "Alternatives to asking for a user’s gender in a required two-option drop-down menu…"
Genders and Drop-down Menus "when a website is considered “good,” whatever that website displays as content, images, default settings, or options is considered “normal” by its users. You have the power to influence “normal.”"
Сексуальное просвещение
Покажи мне! "Мы не считаем, что ребенок сможет найти ответы на волнующие сексуальные вопросы, рассматривая фотографии в этой книге. Но тем не менее наша книга поможет предотвратить страхи и чувство вины, которые могут возникать у ребенка в связи с сексуальностью. Также необходим диалог между родителем и ребенком. Только тогда ребенок сможет выразить свои вопросы и проблемы, связанные с сексом, и решить их."
On Talking to Children and Adolescents about BDSM and Sex "My two eldest children are 11 and 9 respectively and while I would be comfortable discussing a wide variety of sexual topics with them (IE homosexuality, transgender issues, polyamorism), the thought of discussing kink/bdsm with them at this point in time stops me dead in my tracks."
The “consent” conversation "I’m curious to know if parents talk to their boys about consent. Does anyone consider that a required part of a boy’s sexual education? Do parents or school officials consider it their essential duty to teach boys this stuff? I’m not just talking about protecting girls, but about protecting boys from illegal situations they can wander into rather than set out to create."
Культура изнасилования и согласие на секс
Смещение акцентов "Достаточно назвать насилие каким-нибудь другим словом - и возвести именно это название в то, что берется за норму - для того, чтобы доминирующим переживанием жертвы насилия стал стыд. "
The Scariest Monsters in the World - a parody on the stereotypes of women in rape culture.
So You Think You Can Rape and Get Away With It "So even though this guy has been accused three times of sexual assault, including by a minor, he was not only not prosecuted for years, despite consistent stories from multiple accusers, but he was somehow able to parlay his unaffected career into a position on a popular television show which regularly brought him into intimate physical contact with young women, including minors."
Rape is a Crime of Abuse of Power and we are all under its thumb "A new bill has is being written, that any defendant or allegedly accused rapist will have the right to report to the police a counter complaint against (usually) his complainants. Okay, in case it wasn't clear. If someone is accused of committing rape, this bill will enable the rapist to say: "she made me do it". As though "unofficial" victim blaming wasn't destructive enough."
"But women don't rape!": sexual pressure, rejection and the male sex drive discourse "Female-on-male sexual assault is a subject people don't talk about much. I assume it's because heterosexual intercourse relies on the man having an erection, which to the less progressive, educated eye makes it physically impossible (never mind that a man can physically have an erection and still not want to have sex on an intellectual or emotional level)."
Гомосексуальность и вопросы ЛГБТ
Терминология | Правила сообщества - сообщество lgbt_grani вводит правила по употреблению корректной терминологии в постах.
Гомосексуальность и Библия "Глубокое изучение Библии подтверждает, что в ней есть Благая Весть для гомосексуалистов и лесбиянок и на самом деле нет того, что вы, возможно, привыкли думать."
Don't Ask, Don't Tell "You don’t like the idea that some man you’re not attracted to might be fantasizing about having sex with you, might be eyeing your fun bits, that there’s even a remote but existing chance he might rape you? Harden. The fuck. Up. Fifty percent of the population has to cope with this every day as a fact of life, and we’re called paranoid deranged feminazi man-haters if we even bring it up outside a feminist consciousness-raising session."
A Super Bowl ad too far? Straights can take it "On Sunday, as I hunker down with family and friends for the Super Bowl, I can rest easy knowing that CBS is working hard to defend my heterosexual sensitivities. On the surface, heterosexuality doesn't seem like a particularly distinctive trait or one in need of broad institutional protections, but many seem to believe that we heterosexuals are delicate souls. "
CBS Rejected Hilary Duff's 'That's So Gay' PSA "You all know that PSA that Hilary Duff did. The one where she want's to stop using gay as a synonym for stupid, dumb, etc. Well 'Think Before You Speak' submitted it to be aired during the Super Bowl and CBS rejected it."
Красота, образ тела, плюс-сайз
Ivonne Thein «Incredible Me» "Ивонна Тэйн сфотографировала моделей с нормальным весом и с помощью фотошопа уменьшила их таким образом, будто они весят 32 килограмма."
What Does 200 Calories Look Like? "Some foods have significantly more Calories than others but what does the difference actually look like. Each of the photographs below represents 200 Calories of the particular type of food; the images are sorted from low to high calorie density. When you consider that an entire plate of broccoli contains the same number of Calories as a small spoonful of peanut butter, you might think twice the next time you decide what to eat."
Aesthetic Sensibilities "On the whole, men are more beautiful than women. They just are. Men are all grace and power and smooth lines, whereas women are lumpy and awkward and squashy."
Истории, которые мы рассказываем
Славой Жижек про "Аватар": фильм, замещающий реальность "Так при чем тут фильм Кэмерона? А ни при чем. В Ориссе нет никаких высокородных принцесс, ожидающих, когда бледнолицый герой придет, соблазнит их и поможет их народу. Там есть только маоисты, поднимающие на борьбу голодающих крестьян. Так что, может, настоящий аватар – это и есть сам «Аватар», фильм, замещающий реальность?"
I Didn’t Dream of Dragons "When I was around thirteen years old, I tried to write a fantasy novel. It was going to be an epic adventure with a cross-dressing princess on the run, a snarky hero, and dragons. I got stuck when I had to figure out what they would do after they left the city. Logically, there would be a tavern. But there were no taverns in India. "
8 Superhero Relationships More Dysfunctional Than Yours "Leave it to superheroes to set an example for the rest of us, even when it comes to co-dependency and messed-up relationships. Here are some brightly costumed romances that provide anti-role models for the rest of us."
abuse in fiction! "When you write two white dudes in a fic, you're essentially writing with just one canon: the original media's. But when you're writing a woman, or a person of color, or a person with past trauma (of course, the list goes on), you're writing with multiple canons. You don't have just the original media to consider; you also have a whole body of experiences, stories, history, and in some ways language to deal with. "
В поисках новой мужественности: американский вариант "Что означает «быть мужчиной»? Можно назвать много определяющих признаков от банальных до спорных. "
Новая парадигма отцовства "Мало кто сомневается в исключительной важности и незаменимости матери в жизни ребенка. Гораздо меньше известно о том, что с самых первых дней жизни ребенок остро нуждается в тесной психологической связи с отцом."
Sexting, and What it Means to be a Girl Two girls aged 12 were photographed by another friend on her digital camera. The two girls were depicted from the waist up, wearing bras. Skumanick told a group of students and parents that he had the authority to prosecute a girl for being photographed in a bikini on a beach, because the photo was "provocative." The boys who traded the photos bear no responsibility and require no re-education. Instead the girls are threatened with felony charges and life-long registration as sex offenders.
Vintage - Dating Techniques from the 1930's "From the Facebook album: "Vintage - Dating Techniques from the 1930's" by Jenny Bowen"
Designing a Better Drop-Down Menu for Gender "Alternatives to asking for a user’s gender in a required two-option drop-down menu…"
Genders and Drop-down Menus "when a website is considered “good,” whatever that website displays as content, images, default settings, or options is considered “normal” by its users. You have the power to influence “normal.”"
Сексуальное просвещение
Покажи мне! "Мы не считаем, что ребенок сможет найти ответы на волнующие сексуальные вопросы, рассматривая фотографии в этой книге. Но тем не менее наша книга поможет предотвратить страхи и чувство вины, которые могут возникать у ребенка в связи с сексуальностью. Также необходим диалог между родителем и ребенком. Только тогда ребенок сможет выразить свои вопросы и проблемы, связанные с сексом, и решить их."
On Talking to Children and Adolescents about BDSM and Sex "My two eldest children are 11 and 9 respectively and while I would be comfortable discussing a wide variety of sexual topics with them (IE homosexuality, transgender issues, polyamorism), the thought of discussing kink/bdsm with them at this point in time stops me dead in my tracks."
The “consent” conversation "I’m curious to know if parents talk to their boys about consent. Does anyone consider that a required part of a boy’s sexual education? Do parents or school officials consider it their essential duty to teach boys this stuff? I’m not just talking about protecting girls, but about protecting boys from illegal situations they can wander into rather than set out to create."
Культура изнасилования и согласие на секс
Смещение акцентов "Достаточно назвать насилие каким-нибудь другим словом - и возвести именно это название в то, что берется за норму - для того, чтобы доминирующим переживанием жертвы насилия стал стыд. "
The Scariest Monsters in the World - a parody on the stereotypes of women in rape culture.
So You Think You Can Rape and Get Away With It "So even though this guy has been accused three times of sexual assault, including by a minor, he was not only not prosecuted for years, despite consistent stories from multiple accusers, but he was somehow able to parlay his unaffected career into a position on a popular television show which regularly brought him into intimate physical contact with young women, including minors."
Rape is a Crime of Abuse of Power and we are all under its thumb "A new bill has is being written, that any defendant or allegedly accused rapist will have the right to report to the police a counter complaint against (usually) his complainants. Okay, in case it wasn't clear. If someone is accused of committing rape, this bill will enable the rapist to say: "she made me do it". As though "unofficial" victim blaming wasn't destructive enough."
"But women don't rape!": sexual pressure, rejection and the male sex drive discourse "Female-on-male sexual assault is a subject people don't talk about much. I assume it's because heterosexual intercourse relies on the man having an erection, which to the less progressive, educated eye makes it physically impossible (never mind that a man can physically have an erection and still not want to have sex on an intellectual or emotional level)."
Гомосексуальность и вопросы ЛГБТ
Терминология | Правила сообщества - сообщество lgbt_grani вводит правила по употреблению корректной терминологии в постах.
Гомосексуальность и Библия "Глубокое изучение Библии подтверждает, что в ней есть Благая Весть для гомосексуалистов и лесбиянок и на самом деле нет того, что вы, возможно, привыкли думать."
Don't Ask, Don't Tell "You don’t like the idea that some man you’re not attracted to might be fantasizing about having sex with you, might be eyeing your fun bits, that there’s even a remote but existing chance he might rape you? Harden. The fuck. Up. Fifty percent of the population has to cope with this every day as a fact of life, and we’re called paranoid deranged feminazi man-haters if we even bring it up outside a feminist consciousness-raising session."
A Super Bowl ad too far? Straights can take it "On Sunday, as I hunker down with family and friends for the Super Bowl, I can rest easy knowing that CBS is working hard to defend my heterosexual sensitivities. On the surface, heterosexuality doesn't seem like a particularly distinctive trait or one in need of broad institutional protections, but many seem to believe that we heterosexuals are delicate souls. "
CBS Rejected Hilary Duff's 'That's So Gay' PSA "You all know that PSA that Hilary Duff did. The one where she want's to stop using gay as a synonym for stupid, dumb, etc. Well 'Think Before You Speak' submitted it to be aired during the Super Bowl and CBS rejected it."
Красота, образ тела, плюс-сайз
Ivonne Thein «Incredible Me» "Ивонна Тэйн сфотографировала моделей с нормальным весом и с помощью фотошопа уменьшила их таким образом, будто они весят 32 килограмма."
What Does 200 Calories Look Like? "Some foods have significantly more Calories than others but what does the difference actually look like. Each of the photographs below represents 200 Calories of the particular type of food; the images are sorted from low to high calorie density. When you consider that an entire plate of broccoli contains the same number of Calories as a small spoonful of peanut butter, you might think twice the next time you decide what to eat."
Aesthetic Sensibilities "On the whole, men are more beautiful than women. They just are. Men are all grace and power and smooth lines, whereas women are lumpy and awkward and squashy."
Истории, которые мы рассказываем
Славой Жижек про "Аватар": фильм, замещающий реальность "Так при чем тут фильм Кэмерона? А ни при чем. В Ориссе нет никаких высокородных принцесс, ожидающих, когда бледнолицый герой придет, соблазнит их и поможет их народу. Там есть только маоисты, поднимающие на борьбу голодающих крестьян. Так что, может, настоящий аватар – это и есть сам «Аватар», фильм, замещающий реальность?"
I Didn’t Dream of Dragons "When I was around thirteen years old, I tried to write a fantasy novel. It was going to be an epic adventure with a cross-dressing princess on the run, a snarky hero, and dragons. I got stuck when I had to figure out what they would do after they left the city. Logically, there would be a tavern. But there were no taverns in India. "
8 Superhero Relationships More Dysfunctional Than Yours "Leave it to superheroes to set an example for the rest of us, even when it comes to co-dependency and messed-up relationships. Here are some brightly costumed romances that provide anti-role models for the rest of us."
abuse in fiction! "When you write two white dudes in a fic, you're essentially writing with just one canon: the original media's. But when you're writing a woman, or a person of color, or a person with past trauma (of course, the list goes on), you're writing with multiple canons. You don't have just the original media to consider; you also have a whole body of experiences, stories, history, and in some ways language to deal with. "
О-о-о, да.
Давно хотел поблагодарить вас за ваши материалы. Вы пишете замечательно и о важном. Очень отрадно все это видеть.
Ужас-ужас.
Пожалуйста
А вам не попадались, кстати, критические отзывы на гендерные воззрения Т. Дороновой, автора программы "Из детства - в отрочество"?
Это ужос - и, кажется, попадает скорее в графу rape culture, чем чисто гендерных проблем.
Модо Пожалуйста
moody flooder Это полный ужос, и не первый раз, что характерно - я видела подобную историю раньше. Только там девочка была постарше на пару лет, и ее заставили сделать фото мальчики. Сначала ей учителя устроили разборки в духе описанных здесь, а потом затравили домогательствами мальчики, причем учителя ничего не предпринимали. Она покончила с собой.
Что касается тематики - я в принципе делю очень примерно, тут многие ссылки можно было бы кидать в разные категории. (Я хотела сначала оставить свои тэги с дииго, но они аццки перегружают пост.) Эту положила в гендер, потому что в статье рассуждения идут больше про гендер.
А эротический календарь очень-очеь забавный)))))
О да! И мне нравится, что он разнополый и разновозрастной. (В отличие от другого попадавшегося мне такого календаря, на который я потеряла ссылку, может быть, даже российского банка, но не уверена - там были исключительно стройные девушки.)
О да! И мне нравится, что он разнополый и разновозрастной
Ага
Во-во
Я за это очень люблю пару своих каррент-фандомных авторов, которые блестяще пишут неловкость секса. А один из самых имхо эротичных текстов у них - это вообще failed!sex, когда случились собаки и вообще стало не до того
А каррент-фандом - это Доктор или Торчвуд?
Жажду реков - имеет смысл пройтись по твоим тегам с реками?